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Creating personal family and friendship moments

December 3, 2013



We always complain about creating close, personal family moments.  We seem to try to intellectualize why don’t we have deeper conversations, how come we never talk about real things; how come we never get into real issues, or just have a nice, quiet conversation about how to communicate, or how to be closer as a family.  We don’t realize, those are just a by-product of the moments that happen from spending time with our family just to spend time. Just going and shooting hoops with my kid can turn into an in-depth conversation, but if I don’t go and shoot those hoops, then there’s no moment after shooting.  You know, you go to shoot hoops, you sit for a minute and just transition; and that moment is that blank space where all possibilities can come together.  Maybe you see a bird, or you see something of depth in nature that strikes a reflection, strikes a moment that turns into a life changing, or life learning moment of deep soul to soul connection of what life is about, what are we here for; or how do we better ourselves as a family, isn’t it nice to have that family unit, or politics about the U.S. government, how our government operates. 

Nobody wants to set aside time to talk about our government, but when you get into a political conversation in the right mode, it can really tell you who somebody is, and where their perspective of life is about what the possibilities of human kind are.  So, you can get into those in-depth conversations with family, that’s what I love.  So, making sure that when we get those family moments, and we want those intense family moments.   We realize that they’re a by-product of spending time with our family, and participating in the family unit.  Conversations of depth and family moments take place in an intense way.

Even with your friends, when you think about your friends, it’s like why do great,  intense conversations happen late night?  They also happen in those in between zones when we have nothing going on, and we’re always talking to our friends, but you realize why we stay close is because we share those in between moments; those in between moments where nothing exists other than the intensity of that conversation.  Those in between moments where we’re not running from here to there, and we’re just making a transition from here to there, and it’s that moment where the ponderings of life can be there because there’s nothing going on and we seem to be in the moment.  We’re in a dialog with our friends all the time, and we fall into them all the time.  It’s frequency, the more you are with someone, the more opportunity you have to have those soul to soul moments, where you talk about the true essence of life, and you feel that connection to another human being and you get an idea of what it’s all about. 

What it’s all about is loving people and having loving relationships that signify such abundance, such joy, such intelligence, such creativity.  Our friends and our family represent the direct frequency of what we align ourselves with in life, and when you can spend time with all that, the positive interactions change and mold who you are.  It’s interesting how we are molded from our family moments, and each one of them stack up, and you can’t say which one of them is going to set the future, but you realize as you look back that it’s a combination of specific moments that just stuck.  They stuck and they changed me forever, that conversation gave me my value system.  That’s what we talk about when we talk about cultural and cross-cultural values.  That’s where we talk about inner family cross cultural values that come as a by-product of what you’re patterned with, realizing that the discipline of just spending time with family and friends; and recognizing the importance of love and the nature of love in our friendships and families, and just following that energy can make great things happen.

Have fun,

Much love,


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